Comments on: Tardiness http://www.chocolateandgarlic.com/2009/05/bummer/ The Sweet, The Savory Thu, 09 Sep 2010 04:49:15 -0500 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: Mary Ann http://www.chocolateandgarlic.com/2009/05/bummer/comment-page-1/#comment-570 Mary Ann Fri, 22 May 2009 18:54:04 +0000 http://www.chocolateandgarlic.com/?p=1713#comment-570 I am in the middle of a really interesting chapter on time and how we perceive it. I hate to give you the title though, because it sounds awful. Anyway, there are two continuua, the present/future and the objective/subjective ways of perceiving time. I'm learning a lot about myself, and I think I'm learning about my husband too. OK, it's called _Your Time-Starved Marriage_ by Les and Leslie Parrott, and it's well-written for a self-help book. I am in the middle of a really interesting chapter on time and how we perceive it. I hate to give you the title though, because it sounds awful. Anyway, there are two continuua, the present/future and the objective/subjective ways of perceiving time. I’m learning a lot about myself, and I think I’m learning about my husband too. OK, it’s called _Your Time-Starved Marriage_ by Les and Leslie Parrott, and it’s well-written for a self-help book.

]]> By: Robin http://www.chocolateandgarlic.com/2009/05/bummer/comment-page-1/#comment-569 Robin Fri, 22 May 2009 15:29:43 +0000 http://www.chocolateandgarlic.com/?p=1713#comment-569 Boy, I'm with you on that one. I try so hard to be on time for things, and yet I am perpetually at least five to ten minutes behind anywhere I go. However, I do think it fair to blame it on the kids. Whether they are nursing or potty training or trying to find their overdue library books at the last minute, it takes a really well-organized mother to get everyone out the door on time. I was thinking on Sunday as I was getting me and my four children ready for church (on my own, of course, since Andrew is always gone on Sundays for bishopric meetings), just how much is involved in getting everyone ready, since none of them are capable of doing it themselves. Sure, my older kids can dress and feed themselves, but that doesn't mean they will do it when you tell them to. I have a checklist running in my head--"Kid#1--clothes, check. Shoes, check. Hair, check. Breakfast-check. Now on to kid #2" I know that if I don't get the whole process started at least two hours before church starts, we will be late. Even then, when everyone is actually ready on time, there is often a last-minute thing that slows us all down. This week we spent twenty minutes looking for James' shoes (he's only one, so he only has one pair of shoes), which someone had put up on a shelf in the garage. We had started out ten minutes early and ended up ten minutes late. Seriously, when you have so many things to coordinate at one time (Do we have extra diapers and wipes? Snacks and/or toys to keep the toddler occupied? Five-year-old's talk? Do nine-year-old's socks match? Has seven-year-old messed up her hair since I styled it half an hour ago? Has toddler dumped out entire box of cereal on the kitchen floor?), it's amazing we can even get out of the house sometimes. So, cut yourself some slack. You're not alone! Boy, I’m with you on that one. I try so hard to be on time for things, and yet I am perpetually at least five to ten minutes behind anywhere I go. However, I do think it fair to blame it on the kids. Whether they are nursing or potty training or trying to find their overdue library books at the last minute, it takes a really well-organized mother to get everyone out the door on time. I was thinking on Sunday as I was getting me and my four children ready for church (on my own, of course, since Andrew is always gone on Sundays for bishopric meetings), just how much is involved in getting everyone ready, since none of them are capable of doing it themselves. Sure, my older kids can dress and feed themselves, but that doesn’t mean they will do it when you tell them to.

I have a checklist running in my head–”Kid#1–clothes, check. Shoes, check. Hair, check. Breakfast-check. Now on to kid #2″ I know that if I don’t get the whole process started at least two hours before church starts, we will be late. Even then, when everyone is actually ready on time, there is often a last-minute thing that slows us all down. This week we spent twenty minutes looking for James’ shoes (he’s only one, so he only has one pair of shoes), which someone had put up on a shelf in the garage. We had started out ten minutes early and ended up ten minutes late. Seriously, when you have so many things to coordinate at one time (Do we have extra diapers and wipes? Snacks and/or toys to keep the toddler occupied? Five-year-old’s talk? Do nine-year-old’s socks match? Has seven-year-old messed up her hair since I styled it half an hour ago? Has toddler dumped out entire box of cereal on the kitchen floor?), it’s amazing we can even get out of the house sometimes. So, cut yourself some slack. You’re not alone!

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